To live is to grow. Have you ever said the following: “I’m living it up!”, “This is living!”, or “Living the live!” I know a lot of people that say they are living only when they have a great time. But living does not only happen in select, or “good times.” It happens in every stage of life, good or bad. Are you living right now? Of course, if you are reading this, and are not a ghost, you are living. Are you in the best mood? You may be. But you may be in a bad mood. And does that mean you are not living? Guess what? You are still living. And bad experiences may be the best type of living, because you grow.
Now that it is understood that life is about growth, and growth happens constantly, whether it is good or bad, you know that you must figure out a way now, a way to grow in a good way, and appreciate the bad when it does show up. Why Pain?We wonder why we go through pain, surely it must not be worth it? But, indeed, any type of growth is, no matter how small. See, what happens here is, nobody wants to experience pain, as it is a bad feeling. Bad feelings happen to teach us lessons and grow. The more pain, the more experienced we are, deeper the feelings and connections in our brains to truly feel deeply and see things differently, and make new neural connections that will help us survive in the future. Without bad feelings and pain, we would not grow to the capacity we deserve. Would you not want to be your best? Life experiences that guide you to your growth are not roses, they are painful thorns. Have you realized that life can be up, or down? If we do not feel the sting of the pain, we will not enjoy so much the sweet of the honey. Life can be, of course, sweet like honey, but in other times, when it wants to teach us some lessons, it will sting us. But that is alright, because we will appreciate the honey so much more when it is there.. and truly, we should appreciate the sting, not only because we know that the honey is coming soon, but because we are growing with knowledge and experience.
Experiences Change You Who are you? It’s imperative that we have a great understanding of what makes us who we are. Every experience, whether positive or negative, takes us to a place of improvement. As we understand that each day we are someone new, the reason for that is because yesterday has changed us for today, and today will change us for tomorrow. You understand that 6 months ago, as well as 6 years ago, you were a different person not only because of your age, which is an obvious difference that takes you to different stages of your life (child, teenager, young adult, etc.) that brings about typical experiences that an average individual of that age experiences, but also you are different because no one in the world experienced exactly what you experienced during those times. The blueprints we take make us similar, but never the same. This is why we are all different people built on a foundation of different building blocks. Same Earth, Different PeopleThe extent of difference in each one of us due to our individual experiences makes it surprising that we all get along. The variety of our backgrounds have created a portrayal of life that is going to be the same from one person to another, giving us not “rose-colored glasses”, but glasses colored by our own colors - whatever those are, created by us.
Life gives you colors, and you paint your own world. Nobody can paint your life for you, as the brush sits in your hand. Dream your masterpiece and paint it, with daily strokes.
Embrace Experiences Taking into account your experiences, you can be thankful for who you have become. If there are things you do not like, then you can change them - nobody else can. Take into account your reaction towards your experiences, and see whether you welcomed them and allowed them to teach you a lesson. Most people do not like themselves because they are bitter and unhappy due to the negative experiences. Those individuals have a tough time understanding that experiences are a great thing, and they are a gift to life. Let go of the negativity and be grateful about the experiences, good and bad. Next time you are feeling badly, acknowledge it, understand it, take the good from it, and LET.IT.GO.